How boudoir photography transformed my relationship with my body?

 

If you are looking for ways to celebrate your body, let me introduce you a ever-stunning possibility of gift .

Across generations woman were made to believe that they aren’t good enough for various factors ranging from skintone,body shape etc

All these advertisements occupies in social media and Tv is indirectly asking us ;How can you like your body?

Being constantly bombarded with this stereotypical view of beauty . Many people are falling into the trap of negative body image and poor self-esteem. This took a toll on my self esteem too. I started disliking my body when I was experiencing depression.

 

I am a person who likes creative expression of self through any artistic mediums such as art,poems,dance etc. On a middle of a sunny day,I spent my leisure time in self-photography which helped me to like my body in its own imperfections. When I shared my new found hobby in creative self photography with one of my friend,I had came to know about boudoir photography. Its exciting,meaningful and I was thrilled to experience it professionally.

 

Posing seminude infront of a male photographer for boudoir shoot was intimidating and neither easy nor hard for me. I gradually felt comfortable with showing my body to another human . ofcourse it takes huge courage and a safe space for me to do this.  I deeply felt to do this not only to express myself but its also about breaking the body shame and negative feelings I had with certain parts of my body.

 

What is Boudoir ?

In French ,the word boudoir refers to a women’s private dressing room.Boudoir photography is a concept which encompasses the artistic and intimate elements of human body .It brings out the essence of a person in multiple dimentions through their bodily gestures or expressions.

 

My experience with Boudoir shoot is phenominal and I totally loved it. It freezes a particular stage of my life . I understood that how difficult to be a model and to pose spontaneously . I can still enjoy looking at my own photos and falling in love with my uniquely designed miraculous body dripping with divine beauty. Whenever I look at these pictures ,it reminds me of my capacity to be courageous, unconditional acceptance and love for my body.

 

If you try wholeheartedly by knowing the purpose of doing it. I promise you that you’ll keep on thanking yourself for giving this sweet gift to yourself. Afterall its you and your body , so own it and celebrate it.

 

It’s a powerful way to shed the shame that we subconsciously attached with our natural nude body and shatter the cultural impositions that this patriarchal society primarily connects with the women body.

Waving a loving goodbye to 2021 !

 

Good morning Monday. Today is 20th of December 2021.  

Eleven days left for the new year. I am truly humbled by life for all the love,nurturings from loved ones and blessings I receive each and every moment.

Is this gonna be a thankful journelling or something else ,I DON’T KNOW.

There are lot of things in my life is bringing me closer to my own inner self. I like that. Life is always about learnings and evolving right. Being a spiritually anchored person,some times I feel trapped in this cocoon where there is no joy and fun.

The biggest realization that happened for me in this year is JUST LIVE!

YES,Living is itself magic. Feeling alive,being in touch with your soul,inner wisdom and most importantly your inner child all adds as a exquisite ingredient to live life as a whole self.

What defines your whole self?                                                                 

Are you living true to your authentic self?                                           

Have you learnt to be unapologetic in accepting all versions of yourself?                                                                                                       

Are you committed to nurturing your soul-garden with love and compassion? 

How is your relationship with the unspoken emotions of yourself?

Oh yes, these are all the questions that popped in me while I am contemplating my journey so far in 2021.

Taking in-charge of my wellbeing and allowing all versions of me to play in this massive space of life is the kindest reminder from my soul.

So here is what I gonna do in the upcoming days to bid farewell to my old self in a loving way without making her feel criticized or judged.

let light guides you :)

-Daily ritual of celebrating the odds of my present and transmuting my energies through candle gazing.

- welcoming my wild self through sensual dance.

- allowing my happy parts of inner child to be playful

- travelling solo and connecting with beautiful souls that meant to cross my path.

Hold your truth and shine through the nicest and toughest days packed up in the NEW YEAR coming ahead.

Don’t forget to make your 2020 bucketlist lovelies .

On the way to love your partner , don’t skip your daily dose of self-love !

being kind to yourself is self-love

It’s  always tricky when it comes to love in romantic relationship . Is it really possible to love two persons at a time? Had we ever got a opportunity to share the love with two individuals without feeling guilt or bad ? I understand that Most People don’t come across this way of love story. What if I tell,its not a elite concept but a necessity to bring this to your life,thus consciously creating joy out of the relationship that you have with YOURSELF and your PARTNER .

 

Yes, I am speaking about self-love and the love you share in a romantic relationship. Precisely the two individuals who’s going to receive your love is YOU and your PARTNER.

 Back then in my collage days ,I was single and was experiencing unrequited love. An hopeless romantic . I was referred as a mother of self-love by one of my friend. Many of my classmates, friends told me that they inspire me when they notice myself being positive,independent and in full of self-love. Now I could see its easy for me to love myself well when I was single. After a long journey of finding a partner through dating and its own unsuccessful stories and successful learnings, now I am finally in a committed relationship .

 

Here I am slowly uncovering a mist in this relationship. On a gloomy day where I felt no desire for this mundane work life as its sucking the energy out of me.Suddenly my inner self is knocking at the doors of my heart and warning me, hey Preethi don’t loose yourself on the way while sharing your love to him. Are your loving yourself as you did before? Show some love to the parts of you that is feeling not good enough or ashamed or guilt or associated with any negative feelings.

Oh yes,it takes courage for me to listen to my holy innerself and admitting that I am slowly loosing the love for myself without my conscience.

Women in relationship:

Generally women have a natural tendency to focus predominantly on nurturing relationship with others by neglecting their self .This comes to the stage in love relationship too. I don’t say I am providing or giving more but I could fairly witness that I am focusing a lot concerning about the “US” things in our relationship.

Meanwhile the self love I talk over here isn’t only about the skin care routine or spa or the commercial products out there to sell you in the label of selfcare/self love. Whereas its not wrong to pamper yourself with these products rather what I am bringing to your attention is  LOVE your flaws, the scars from your past , your imperfections, change your toxic thoughts/beliefs that belongs to your past, accept your present wholeheartedly,embrace your body with unconditional acceptance,Honour your emotional,mental and physical needs and be the first person to provide all these to yourself with a loving-tender care.

 

I like to share here the little steps I took to fill my inner cup with the love it deserves while I am being in a  loving relational commitment to my partner .

1.Appreciation :  Appreciate yourself by looking at your eyes through mirror.yes,its called as mirror exercise that helps us build self-esteem though  positive feedback . saying positive affirmations and writing it is also a way to appreciate ourselfs.

2. Pleasurable Morning: Make your Morning pleasurable by indulging in any of the soothing activity you love to do. It can be walking,dancing,cycling, gardening,singing or yoga etc  I am not suggesting you a fitness routine. Primarily you should feel pleasurable and enjoy the activity that you do.

3. Innerchild meditation: This is a essential tool to keep our emotional health sane and healthy. In romantic relationship we often create the parent-child dynamic subconsciously .This will lead to over-expectations and conflict. The inner-child meditation is a guiding imaginary audio meditation(youtube: louise hay inner-child meditation)  where you can relax and nurture the needs of your inner child. Evening and night time suits me best to do this.

 

4.Gratitude Journelling: Write down the things that you feel thankful in your day, with your partner and anything that you feel thankful.Adding this to your night-time routine will be a soul-food.

 

5. Hangout with your friends or solo date yourself once/twice a month atleast.

So ladies,Giving quality time for your interests and healing will directly have a positive influence on the quality time you spend together as a couples.

loving yourself is healing

Lets look forward to 2022 with full of love to you and let the brimming love from your heart nourish your relationships too .